Monday, May 01, 2006

Joshua Bigby 1983-2006

As a basketball coach you get to experience so many different kinds of kids. You get to build relationships with kids that you grow to love. It is like you almost become a parent to them, just on a lower level. This past weekend I lost one of those kids to a tragic automobile accident. His name is Joshua Bigby and he is from Livingston, Texas.

Josh is a great kid. He is probably one of the most competitive and determined kids that I have had the pleasure to coach. We didn't always see eye to eye, as is the case with all kids. At times Josh could be a very hard headed kid. The one endearing quality that Josh has is that he will give you nothing less than 110% effort. Once he made his mind up to do something he did it without hesitation or second guessing himself. From a coaching standpoint that was not necessarily always a good thing, but you live with it. He had a great passion for playing the game of basketball. Before every game he would just sit there with this look on his face, one that I believe would intimidate the devil. As a coach you knew he was ready to play that night. Whenever you talked to Josh he would look you in the eyes, and answer everything with "yes sir" and "no sir". He is a well mannered kid which I think is a great testament to his parents and his upbringing. In my brief relationship with Josh I found out that he has a great love for the outdoors, hunting in particular. One day I asked him what he wanted to do when he graduated, he replied with, "all I want to do is buy some land and put up a deer stand and just hunt". That is another thing that I love about Josh, and that is his ability to keep things simple.

I went to the Funeral home in Woodville, Texas, which is just outside his home town. While I was there I got to see the great numbers of people that Josh impacted in his short stay with us. They were all sad, but at the same time I detected a sense of pride from them. A pride that came from knowing and interacting with Josh. He had a lasting impact on all of his family and friends. I got to talk to his parents, grandparents, cousins, brothers, sister, and some friends. They all spoke of Josh's love for life, and fun in living his life. Josh will be dearly missed by all who have come in contact with him. I for one am glad to have known Josh, and will always remember him as a great young man.

To the Bigby Family: May you find encouragement and comfort in the memories that Josh left with you.

To Harrison (his little brother): Josh was proud to be your brother, as I know you are proud to be his. Can't wait to see you as a basketball player and hunter.

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

Brian, so sorry for the loss of one of your players. I know that attending that funeral had to be a tough one. I am sure the family appreciated you being there and I know you were probably a great support for them.
Love,
Mom Chez

pawatson said...

Coach Thrift, we also were blessed to know Josh, getting to meet first on Christmas Eve when he and a couple of teammates came over to eat. We saw that politeness and the fierce intensity of competitiveness. He was a joy to watch play ball, and he was a joy to be around. We have fed a lot of kids through the years, but Josh is one that just somehow grabbed our heart. I am so glad you were able to go and be with his family. I talked to his Mom on the phone Sunday afternoon, and I know you're being there meant a lot to the family. I know Josh impacted our family and we miss him tremendously. Thank you for sharing with us. -Patsy Watson

Tori Watson said...

Coach Thrift,
Thank you for your kind words about Josh. He meant a lot to our family. His death has really impacted me. I'm glad to know you were able to go and spend time with his family. He played hard and worked hard. I will never forget the friend he became to me in a short couple of months. Thank you for sharing what Josh mean to you.
Tori Watson

Beverly said...

Brian...I am so sorry...Blessed told me about it at the Library last night..I will be praying for all of you.

Blessed is going to come over and shoot baskets with Sam this summer.

Big Brother said...

Hi Brother I am sorry. I am praying for the Bigby family.
Love T.

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